Tuesday, March 29, 2016

When it's time to cut long hair

At what age is "too old" for long hair? (By "long" I mean, past your shoulder blades.)

I've had my hair long for the past couple years, all the while wondering if there is a point at which it's no longer age-appropriate. I could look to several famous people who can get away with it. The Real Housewives Kyle Richards, model Brooke Shields, and actor Sofia Vergara are all women in their 40s sporting long locks and pulling it off.
Kyle, Brooke, and Sofia look gorge with long hair (or no hair even)

However, when I look around at "real" people, I don't see a ton of women sporting extra long hair after 40. Of those that do, I think it comes down to three groups:

1. Women who take the time to style their hair and keep their hairstyle current.
2. Women who hold on to an older style or have over-processed, dry hair.
3. Women who go natural. Unfortunately, natural isn't as silky and smooth as when we were younger.

Did you know that hair texture changes (like everything else on your body) as you get older? They actually make shampoo for "old" hair now. Ugh.

My hair was falling into groups two and three. I rarely take time to style my hair and, due to years of highlights, the ends looked rather fried. And with the Florida humidity, wearing it natural usually ended up frizzy.

Based on my informal observations, I came to the conclusion that in order to really pull off long hair as you get older, you need to put work into it. Meaning, use product, blow dry, and style it when it's down. (Unless you are still blessed with naturally silky, smooth hair.)

So last month I put on my big girl (or 40-something woman) pants, and got 4 inches cut off. Eeek!
(Not actually my hair)

The funny thing is, while it was such a huge change for me, hardly anyone else (including my husband) noticed! I must say, however, that it basically looked the same from the front--it was the length in the back that got chopped.

I think I was holding on to the length because it made me feel younger and kinda sexy. It probably wasn't as flattering as I thought in my head, because I never styled it. ...And it was dry as straw at the ends. Now on the other side, I feel like it was the right decision. It's still longish and I love it.

Good-bye, hair. Good bye to another piece of youth. Hello again, forties.

What is your take? Is there a hard and fast rule for when to chop long hair? Have you done it and regretted it? Are you thinking about it? Comment below.


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Tuesday, March 1, 2016

The Story Behind the Photo

A picture is worth a thousand words, so they say. And we all know that on social media, things are not always as they seem. I had to chuckle to myself last weekend when my husband shared a picture of our Family Funday Sunday morning activity.

Here's the truth in the picture:
  • It was a beautiful day. The weather was perfect.
  • We rode our bikes on peaceful trails in a state forest, in full-on nature, with no electronic devices.
  • We were happy....we had just started out, our bellies full, and our muscles fresh.

Here's what you don't know:
  • About 45-minutes later, the sugar rush from the chocolate donuts had worn off and the kids' blood-sugar levels dropped.
  • We took a wrong turn and ended up on a 4-mile trail, when we meant to take the 1-mile trail. We were on a schedule to leave at a certain time and we were at least 3 miles away from the trailhead. 
  • One of us got extremely tired and decided to quit 2 miles in. A bike was thrown down and a tantrum ensued.
  • The one having a tantrum plopped down to rest next to his bike and sat on a thorny vine. 
  • Someone else decided to relentlessly tease the one that quit.
  • And the rest of us got extremely frustrated. 

So basically, we started out all smiles and returned tired and with very little patience. Yay!

Yet, the picture still got posted. And one of the comments even was, "Looks like you all had a great time on a gorgeous day." Yep, looks like it! But we don't usually share our trying moments on social media. We gloss over them and choose to show our happier times.

That's how we roll.

Just remember that there's usually more than meets the eye...especially on social media!

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