Thursday, May 21, 2015

Swimsuit Season Pep-talk

Well, it's that time of year. Time to expose the pale flesh that has been hiding under the safety blanket of our clothes. Are you ready?

Being comfortable in a bathing suit is a mindset.

The main thing to remember is that all those people, whether at the beach, the pool, the water park, or wherever, really don't care that you don't look like you did when you were in your twenties. They didn't even know you.

As a matter of fact, they don't really care how you look today.

Can I repeat that? They don't care!

Most likely, they are too busy worrying about what people are thinking of their own problem areas. Or, the best kind of people, are just having fun and enjoying the moment. That's the type of person I strive to be when I'm out there in my skin-exposing bikini.

Think about strangers you see in bathing suits. Are you really thinking, Her hips are HUGE!! or Holy Moly! I can't believe the belly on her!! I mean, really. It's not as bad as you think it is in your head. You can either sit on a lounge chair and judge and critique other people to make yourself feel better, or you can get in the water and play and enjoy yourself.

And if you have to compare yourself, only think about the awesome things you have going for you. If you have really great feet, go ahead and notice all the ugly feet out there. If you have the best bathing suit getup going on around the pool, own it.

Think about all the guys out there, with their beer bellies and hairy backs. Do any of them seem to care? Noooo! And I'm going to bet you look better than any of those guys.

Don't play the mind games. You can tell when people are not obsessing with how they look. They are the ones having a good time.

Be proud of your body. It does wonderful things. It takes you where you want to go and allows you to do things for yourself and others. If you're a mom, it has given life, and that's pretty awesome. And don't you think in ten years, you'll think the body you have today is youthful? You'll wish you had today's body, so enjoy it now!

Now go get those bathing suits on with confidence, and go have a great summer!

Tuesday, May 5, 2015

Easy Summer Style: The T-shirt Dress

So, in my post How do you really look? I talked about how I want to make looking good easy. People. I am about to make getting dressed this summer a snap.

I'm sharing one of my favorite summer outfits: the cotton t-shirt dress. It's cool, comfortable, and requires very little thought. And you know me, I'm all about keeping it easy.
The one I bought last summer has become one of my favorite go-to outfits that I have worn throughout the year. It's so easy to accessorize. I can wear it with my chunky orange necklace, my red bead necklace and it goes great with aqua and yellow accessories too. Same goes with the shoes: colored flats, sandals, or wedge heels all work. For a girls' lunch, I paired it with a great nautical print Spartina scarf that looked pretty darn cute, if I do say so myself. In the cooler months, I wear it with my beloved jean jacket. And I love that I can throw it in my gym bag and it doesn't wrinkle and it's always great for travel (if I actually did a lot of traveling).

So many different looks with one dress. It's like a Super Dress!!

When you figure out what works, you go with it. And you tell your friends about it. I'm looking for similar dresses to add to my closet this summer. My criteria are: it must be washable, wrinkle-free, and of course, cute.

I've rounded up a few below that may even work for you too.

1. Target| 2. J. Crew Factory | 3. LOFT| 4. LOFT

The Target dress is similar to the Super Dress I have in navy. I love the nautical stripes on the J. Crew dress; if you're tall and thin, you can pull this off.  I absolutely love the color blocking of the aqua/blue dress. It looks so comfy, doesn't it? The cinched waist of the chambray dress is great for a straight figure or hourglass shape. Chambray is great to accessorize with anything.

And best of all, I love how all the dresses are loose enough to move around and are forgiving of a post-baby, over-40 body..."mombod," if you will.

I'm thinking this is my new official Messy Casual motto: Although life is messy, we can still look casual & chic with ease.