Thursday, October 23, 2014

Why I'm Not Going to Your Party

I read in a magazine once that in order to give up something in your life that causes you stress you should make it your "rule" that you don't do it anymore. I knew at that moment, my new rule going forward is: no more home parties.

I think deep down, a lot of us feel the the same about them. You feel obligated to go, because you were invited, and it's your friend. Plus, who doesn't want an excuse for an easy night out with friends.

You show up, see your friends, drink wine, and shop. And because you are giddy to be out of the house with friends and wine, you don't always notice how incredibly marked up some of those items are. I definitely felt duped when an over-priced necklace that was probably of Target quality turned color.

I'm not knocking the constitution of all party items, just the way they are marketed. Of course, they always say, "You don't have to buy anything if you don't want to!" But you kinda do. If you don't, you feel the cool stare on your back as you head out the door from that party leader lady.

I even thought about hosting a party, thinking I could use the profits to go toward my favorite local charity. But by the time I calculated the expense of the food, drinks, and products, I'd rather just make a straight donation, have friends over for a pot-luck wine taste and forget all the friend-guilt.

Whatever happened to just having friends over for wine and appetizers for no reason? Is it only worth it if you can make money off your friends or cash in on a bounty of jewelery, bags, or cookware? That's not really cool.

So it's not that I don't want to support my friends, it's that I disagree with the way these products are marketed, using friendships to sell products. So my rule is, I choose not to participate. If you want to entertain, just have friends over, there is no need to hawk items. I'd love to come over for a night in with no strings attached...I'll even bring a hostess gift!

But since I've instituted my no purse/jewelry/cookware/etc. party rule, what a relief it is to not think twice about if I should or shouldn't make an appearance or make up some excuse not to go. It's just "no, I don't go to home sales parties." Not that I usually go in to my whole explanation, I just say no, and carry on with my life.  

Do you agree or disagree? If you host parties, what do you think about my stance? Comment using the link below to put in your 2 cents.

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